8 ways to give yourself a little self-love



Valentine’s Day is usually an anxiety-ridden holiday for people on both sides of the relationship table. On one hand, all the single ladies and dudes are trying to forget this stupid holiday ever existed (…maybe a little too much). And on the other, those in a relationship are constantly trying to pull off this insane plan/gift/date, and manage all the weird pressure that comes with it.

So, this Valentines Day — let’s forget all that craziness, and focus on ourselves only. Let’s give ourselves permission stop getting FOMO about that friend’s #relationshipgoals InstaStory who makes her boyfriend seem like Jake Ryan in Sixteen Candles.

Here are a few ways you can look inwards and show yourself some extra love this Valentine’s Day — and forever onwards.


It’s okay to chill out. You don’t need to be doing the 10 extra things on your to-do list today.

Stop putting pressure on yourself.

It’s easy to feel like we have to live in this nonstop world of constantly pushing ourselves to do the Next Best Thing…and when we’re not, we feel like we need to share our lives with the world (facemask selfies anyone?!).

Take a breather. Relax. And, give yourself permission to slow down a bit.


The first time someone suggested this to me, I thought it was super weird. But, I’ve learned that getting in touch with your own body, and showing it some love is super important.

And, it’s not just important because it feels good (which is totally a valid reason), but remember — our skin is our biggest organ. Massaging it, even just for a few minutes before you get into the shower helps to flush out any toxins and impurities from your system.

And, did I mention that it feels really good? So, give yourself a few extra minutes during your self-care routine to massage. You may even notice your skin looking a bit brighter.


Cooking for others is one of the biggest ways that we show our love and appreciation for others. But, what about doing it for ourselves?

I’m totally guilty of whipping up a microwave meal when I’m super busy (aka quinoa + veggie burger + hummus is my go to). But, no — not today. Not on V-Day.

Today, we’re going to cook ourselves a meal of loooove. This vegan mac and cheese recipe is one of my favorite healthy-comfort foods. So, grab a glass of wine (or cup of tea), and get creative in the kitchen.


This one’s simple: Take a breather.

Breathing is one of the most effective, efficient (and not to mention cheap!) ways that we could show ourselves a little love. Also, if you do it right, it’s scientifically proven to de-stress, re-energize, and heal all kinds of wounds.

You can practice breathing, or as the yogi’s say — pranayama — during your meditation practice (if you have one) or from the comfort of your couch. Try this Breath of Fire technique and see if you need a cup of coffee afterwards!


When we think of self-care, we always think of the same Instagram-worthy bath filled with rose petals, right?

But, relaxing should be just that…relaxed. Don’t go overboard.

Facemasks, reading, writing in your journal, and taking a long bath are all awesome ways to relax and unwind. Just remember: it could be just as simple as you’d like it to be.


Have you ever spent an entire day just accepting (or denying) every invitation you’ve received?

It’s one of the best feelings in the world.

Depending on your personality type, and your goals — do what makes you feel best. If you’re super happy spending time alone, or feel like you need a recharge: Feel good saying no. If you need a little adventure in your life, or feel like you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone: Try spending a day Just Saying Yes to everything that comes your way.

It feels extremely rewarding when you listen to your gut, and do what you want to…not what you should.


Plants are psychologically proven to make you feel better.

Not only do they look beautiful, but they actually absorb the toxins in our homes. This helps us increase productivity, concentration, and our overall mood.

No matter where you live, succulents aren’t too hard to find (or take care of). So, wander into your local plant store and let yourself gravitate to your newest plant friend.


An “Inspiration Date” is: To make time for yourself on your own, to do something enchanting.

This could be anything from going for a walk in your neighborhood, to browsing a book store. It could be strolling around the farmers market, or people watching in a park. It’s whatever you find enchanting.

So, substitute those weird Valentines dates for Inspiration time with yourself. A time to show yourself a little love, and take the pressure off. Most importantly: it’s a space for you to remind yourself that you are friggen awesome.

soulKatina Mountanos